Grieving the Loss of Narcissistic Entitlement:
Neuman Kulp, Elaine; Neuman Kulp, Elaine; Psychotherapist, DuPage Counseling and Referral Services, Inc., Lombard, IL 60148, and Instructor, Illinois Benedictine College, Lisle, IL 60532
Журнал:
Journal of College Student Psychotherapy
Дата:
1991
Аннотация:
The child deprived of a sufficient and constant supply of emotional sustenance draws upon his or her imagination for relief from emotional pain and anxiety. This “fantasy bond” is addictive in its capacity to provide some repeatable internal gratification. Often the satisfaction achieved through this fantasy becomes preferred to seeking real satisfactions from other individuals. The realities of a relationship, with its inherent limitations, often intrude on the fantasy bond whose limitations are in the control of the one doing the fantasy work. The child who experiences early narcissistic injury attempts to recover these losses later in life by reworking the impaired attachment with the original primary caretaker in other significant relationships or in attachments to significant ideals or institutions during adolescence and adulthood. But the injured child also draws upon his or her imagination creating fantasized attachments for relief form emotional pain and anxiety. The therapist needs to support mourning work for these earliest narcissistic injuries and losses, thus facilitating the client's ability to cope with the vicissitudes of relationships in a healthier and more adaptive manner.
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